Noisy neighbours

[The Silk Run]

I concur with naffman and do hope you find solace soon. It must be terrible, and your so brave to share this personal information with us all.
I will say a little prayer for you

[Korattt]

appreciate the kind comments, what with one thing & another I just snapped at work a fortnight ago, totally fell apart, embarrassingly broke down in tears, been doing the blokey thing & trying to keep a lid on stuff but of late my time in the markets have suffered, (badly) so I really do need to step away for the foreseeable

[Kai]

Incredibly brave forum post, hope you feel better soon Korattt.

Needless to say it's been a stressful few weeks in general, or a few years actually, have to find ways to unwind and relax to try and balance it all out. Maybe look into ASMR for anxiety etc, I see a lot of younger people use it for these purposes.

[Korattt]

first behaviour therapy session was Friday, ½ hour of being quizzed (on the phone - WTF?), asking me if I’m gonna end my life, thinking about it, ever thought about it, have I stored anything in order to carry it out or self harm.. now if they’re gonna ask those sort of questions wouldn’t you have thought, (or is it me?) that they should’ve been asked maybe when I first asked for help a fortnight ago, when I broke down & asked for help? next session is in a MONTHS time, is there any wonder why suicide & self harm rates are so high , all therapy sessions from what I gather I think are done via phone, which I find odd.

I have emailed the therapist in an effort to expedite things, to which I’m awaiting a response, work messaged me earlier this morning to see if I’m going back to work Monday,

.. and then there’s the issue of when I was assaulted visiting a relative, (my only last remaining relative) in hospital, been getting flashbacks now of being head butted, landing heavily on the floor, (which hasn’t helped), it knocked me out for a few mins but ever since my job changed at work without training it’s kind of triggered things off, ain’t it weird how the brain works?, as mentioned, been trying to keep busy hiding it away etc, but just couldn’t for any longer.

.. anyway guy who attacked me is my uncles boyfriend, uncle now doesn’t talk to me ‘cos he now knows I know he’s homosexual & I don’t think he believes me I was attacked by his boyfriend who saved his life via CPR after a heart attack & we clashed upon visiting on the same day, didn’t know they were in a relationship until I had to fetch stuff to take to the hospital.. total headf*#%, there’s no immediate family, well no one at all if I’m honest to mediate if you will to help explain things to him, would make a great storyline for any soap what I’ve had to endure recently,

as for me being brave?, no.. those poor people fighting for the cause in Ukraine?, now THAT’S brave .

Sob story over

[iambic_pentameter]

As someone who has suffered from mental health issues in the past, I just wanted to say that I'm glad you've sought help.

At my lowest, I was that anxious about everything that I was retching most mornings before getting up, spent most of the time feeling nauseous and was unable to live the house - a combination of generalised anxiety and agoraphobia.

Thanks to some CBT from the NHS (all sessions done by phone) and a regular meditation practice, I am now recovered and enjoying life with no issues.

It will take time, Andy, but you will get through this - the most important part is to be kind to yourself.

Take care,

Iambic

[Korattt]

Iambic,

That’s good to hear you’ve turned things around, pleased for you, I really am, well done

I feel as if my head needs a reboot , like I’ve emotions severed in my brain with stuff, the best way I think I can describe it is that half my emotions are under water & the other half are waving about in the wind, for a brief moment they connect, for a spilt second I’m ok then everything just falls apart again, the thing is none of this is of my own doing, it’s all been outside of my control, which is the annoying thing about it, if I’ve done something wrong then ok.. I’d hold my hands up & admit it’s down to me, but it hasn’t

[iambic_pentameter]

From reading your posts, you've been through a lot and it's understandable that the build up of everything has caused you to feel the way you do now.

You mentioned that your work emailed you about going back, can you talk to your GP and get signed off for a few weeks?

7/11 breathing can be helpful to reduce anxiety; it's not a quick fix but it does work:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KQJDW-i ... l=MDUVideo

Iambic

[Korattt]

You mentioned that your work emailed you about going back, can you talk to your GP and get signed off for a few weeks?

Iambic

I would imagine so, (certainly hope so anyway) because nothing has changed, the issue(s) have not been addressed, the first session proper is at the moment next month

[Korattt]

last night neighbour was at it again, woke us both up & kept us awake, we had to go round there again in an effort to ask him to turn it down, had to go out for a half hour drive to calm down just after 11pm, , enough is enough now, not holding my breath but contacted police on the grounds of harassment as nothings changed & refused his PACE interview with the council a month ago, annoyingly council was due to install recording equipment Monday but she was on leave, she forgot - & emailed to rearrange next week.. +%^*ing typical

[greenmark]

last night neighbour was at it again, woke us both up & kept us awake, we had to go round there again in an effort to ask him to turn it down, had to go out for a half hour drive to calm down just after 11pm, , enough is enough now, not holding my breath but contacted police on the grounds of harassment as nothings changed & refused his PACE interview with the council a month ago, annoyingly council was due to install recording equipment Monday but she was on leave, she forgot - & emailed to rearrange next week.. +%^*ing typical

Hang in there. I think you're doing all the correct things. His family should be dealing with it and have dumped the problem in your lap. Maybe they can't handle him either. I'm surprised there isn't a solicitor, policeperson or council person here that can say do XYZ. I had noisy neighbours and it's SO annoying that someone can be so selfish and dismissive of your peace and quiet. As I say hang in there.

[Korattt]

last night neighbour was at it again, woke us both up & kept us awake..

Hang in there. I think you're doing all the correct things.

thanks GM,

TBH, it’s a bit of a release venting my spleen so to speak on here, signed off work with it all until early next month, missus has a reading with a medium this evening, not my bag as I’m not into that Mumbai jumbo but would be interesting if anything crops up

[Derek27]

last night neighbour was at it again, woke us both up & kept us awake, we had to go round there again in an effort to ask him to turn it down, had to go out for a half hour drive to calm down just after 11pm, , enough is enough now, not holding my breath but contacted police on the grounds of harassment as nothings changed & refused his PACE interview with the council a month ago, annoyingly council was due to install recording equipment Monday but she was on leave, she forgot - & emailed to rearrange next week.. +%^*ing typical

Does your neighbour own his flat or is he renting? Can you complain/put pressure on his landlord if it's the latter?

When I was 21 I was kept awake all night by my drug-addict/alcoholic neighbours partying all night but since then I've been quite lucky with neighbours.

[Korattt]

Derek,

as far as I’m aware his adoptive father owns the property, & our neighbour lives there FOC or at a very reduced rate

[jamesg46]

I once was informed by a police officer (some years back) that it’s impossible to get fingerprints from a brick… one swift blow to the back of the head should do the trick. If that fails, try two or three blows until you’re satisfied with your work.

[Korattt]

I once was informed by a police officer (some years back) that it’s impossible to get fingerprints from a brick… one swift blow to the back of the head should do the trick. If that fails, try two or three blows until you’re satisfied with your work.

James,

if one wraps the brick in elastoplast then I am on the understanding that this obscures evidence even more so