Thanks for your advice.
I'm not sure looks are as important as you suggest.
Let's say a woman is in the top 20% looks-wise.
She probably doesn't realise that she's anywhere near that attractive. The human mind constantly bombards itself with put downs, and it can be more comforting to have a low self-image, as it doesn't hurt as much when you fail.
So is she going to try to get into conversation with someone she thinks is out of her league, and risk wasting her time and ending up feeling embarrassed and rejected? Or is she going to focus on people who aren't in the top 20% looks wise (and who clearly aren't using a model's photo rather than their own)?
Even if we assume women are primarily interested in looks (and I would say they generally aren't), I would say that the latter outcome is more likely...
Jeff
Zenyatta wrote:Hi Jeff,
I signed up for the biggest one, OKCupid,just out of curiosity really.
A couple of things you need to realize:
*The dating websites are largely looks based- unless you are fortunate enough to be a guy in the top 20% in the looks department, its hard to get replies. You need a really good photo, preferably one which has an interesting background or shows you doing something interesting. I suspect your photo is not that great, get a good shot of you outdoors by the ocean (for example) or in an unusual location and I think you'll find you get a better response rate.
*Any girl with decent looks on a dating website gets bombarded with hundreds of messages a week and thus is only going to end up replying to a few of them.
*Experienced users warn its just like the bar scene on steroids. They don't call them 'meat markets' for nothing (see the above two points). Neither bars nor dating websites are good places to meet girls unless are a PYT ('Pretty Young Thing'), because the girls are jaded and on the defensive due to getting hit on all the time, and only really respond favorably to really attractive guys. Basically its for PYTs looking to hook with other PYTs.
